Why is the courtyard shrinking every day?
Why is the courtyard shrinking every day?
All the stoves are falling apart, the courtyard is shrinking every day.
The new century is making this, who knows what kind of discovery it is making? There have been a lot of changes in the family structure in the recent past. But this weakening of the foundation of families has become dependent on many things. Being too ambitious is the main reason for breaking relationships. When there is competition in families the feeling of mutual competition arises more than the happiness and sorrow of each other. Understand that the family or relationship is counting its last breaths. The reasons for breaking up a family do not arise suddenly. Many times there can be other problems like money, property, likes-dislikes, etc. Often there is discord in families due to small fights, neglect of a member etc. But whatever it is, family is one of the biggest support systems. Therefore, efforts should be made to keep the basic concept of family alive and it should not be limited only to Man's Day, Father's Day, or social media.
■ Priyanka Saurabh
Today there is a dire need for everyone to think and understand about family values and family as an institution and also to find out the reasons for the decline of these values and correct them. For this, the leaders of society, poets/writers/singers/heroes/heroines/teachers, and other social workers as well as politicians should write and think about the implications of the decline of the family as an institution. There should be discussions on open forums as to what are the reasons for this decline. And how can we recover from this decline? The young poet Dr. Satyavan Saurabh has rightly written this situation in his own words- “Families are breaking up, moods are changing. Expressing love to strangers, separation from loved ones. All the stoves are falling apart, the courtyard is shrinking every day. This is what the new century is making, Saurabh what kind of discovery." Family, in Indian society, is an institution in itself and has been a distinctive symbol of India's collective culture since ancient times.
Along with moral strength, it provides the individual with the flexibility to rely on his family members, and relatives in difficult times without any hesitation. It prevents the use of unethical means to deal with difficulties. Family helps people to develop a feminine approach towards worldly problems. But in the present times, we are facing the bitter experience of the decline of family as an institution. " There is discord in every home, there is no love left now. Division and strife have drawn walls in every courtyard. There is a conflict between love and blessings. The garden of desires is filled with the bitterness of jealousy." Today, as a symbol of degradation, the family is breaking up, marital relations are breaking up, there is an increase in enmity between brothers, and legal and social disputes in all kinds of relationships.
Today, individualism has taken over collectivism. In the present situation, a promiscuous attitude is the main reason for the disintegration of families. Higher-income and less responsibility to other family members have divided the extended families. Today, most of the social functions, such as child rearing, education, vocational training, care of the elderly, etc., have been taken over by outside agencies, such as creches, media, nursery schools, hospitals, vocational training centers, hospice institutions, as contractors, which were once the responsibility of the elders of the family. " Elders don't talk, younger ones have the rights. Leaving the feet and touching the knees, what kind of tradition is this? Where is the bond of love now, where is the essence of union? The family members themselves have become the enemies, they attack secretly." The collapse of the institution of family has disrupted our emotional relationships. The unifying bond in a family is mutual affection and blood ties.
A family is a closed unit that holds us together because of emotional ties. Moral degradation is a major factor in the breakdown of families as they fail to inculcate in children a sense of self-respect and respect for others. The blind race for position and money has today wiped out socio-economic support and assistance. Families have become limited to providing financial and material support necessary for the growth and development of their members, especially infants and children. Every day we hear and see the collapse of the incapable and weak family system to take care of the elderly and other dependents when they need utmost care and love. In the future the decline of the family as an institution will bring structural changes in society. On the positive side, Indian society may see a decrease in population growth and this may be the effect of the decline of the family as an institution.
However, there is a need to understand the structural changes of the family from joint family to nuclear family, in some cases, it cannot be called the decline of the family system. Where the family system changes from a joint family to a nuclear family for any positive change. Anyway, Indian society also inhabits the unique feature of fusion and fragmentation of family in which even if some members of the family live separately in different places, still live as a family. " If the family is saved then harmony is maintained. Everyone is together in sorrow, and everyone is fond of happiness. If someone third person attacks, Saurabh whenever. Stay with the family and leave all disputes behind." The family is a very fluid social institution and is in a process of constant change. Modernity is witnessing the emergence of same-sex couples (LGBT relationships), cohabitation or live-in relationships, single-parent households, a large proportion of divorcees living alone or with their children. Such families do not necessarily function as traditional kinship groups and may not prove to be good institutions for socialization. In this materialistic age, competition for each other's comforts has scorched the relationships of the mind. The high walls of houses changing from kutcha to pucca have made conversation disappear.
Every courtyard turning into stone is witnessing the orgy of discord. Mutual differences have created deep divisions in the minds. In the absence of good teachings from the elders, people have started making decisions by ignoring small relationships in the house. As a result, today the family members themselves are bent on cutting their own people. On one hand, the neighbors are enjoying happiness while we have to bear the sorrows alone. We have to think and understand that if we want to live a meaningful life, then we have to understand the importance of family and stand with the family leaving aside the mutual disputes, only then we will be saved and this society be worth living.
